It's funny how often “forever” seems to never last. We tell people we love them, we care for them, we could never live without them, but most of the time it turns out to be nothing more than empty, wishful thinking. People need to feel a level of security in their relationship in order to be happy – it's human nature. There are a hundred ways to lose the one you love, to get your heart broken; however, none are worse than getting cheated on.
The person you're with has needs – he or she needs you to be loyal. Rarely do people have the courage to own up to their actions and be the ones to tell their partners what they did.
Being cheated on is arguably the worst feeling in the world, emotionally speaking of course. I was cheated on once in my life – that I know of – and it's not an experience I'm eager to repeat. Most often, you're never actually meant to find out. I just didn't want to accept what had happened because as soon as you accept it, it becomes real. The ground beneath your feet begins to fall away into the abyss, and you're left with nothing to hold on to.
Most cheaters are chronic cheaters – this is why we have the saying, “Once a cheater, always a cheater.”While this is a bit too broad to be true in every case, the fact is many of those who cheat do so because they believe it's OK to do so. Chronic cheaters will never be the ones to own up to what they did, so hearing it from your friends can be… You're likely to not even believe them in the first place, trying to rationalize with yourself, thinking that they must – for whatever reason – be trying to sabotage your relationship. It's one thing if someone you're casually or semi-formally dating cheats on you, and it's another when the man or woman you love decides you are no longer good enough for him or her. You loved this person with all your heart, and it turns out that you were only being delusional.
When I was cheated on, I didn't find out from friends. The reality that you created for yourself has vanished in an instant, and you feel completely and utterly lost.
Your entire future has just been rewritten – and you now have no idea how the book is going to end. It's not necessarily that your ego gets hurt and bruised that rocks your world; It's that the entire future you planned for yourself disappears, and you don't know where to go from here.
You begin to wonder if you are as great of a catch as you thought you were.
You thought you were smart, good looking, caring, loving, a great pick for a life partner.
But then the person you loved, the person you decided to dedicate yourself to, throws you to the side of the road as if you were garbage. Sometimes things just don't work out, and you have no choice but to accept the situation as it is. Getting cheated on is a clear message saying you are the problem – that you just aren't good enough.
Half the time, people cheat on their partners with one-night stands – complete strangers. You've basically been told the person you love would prefer sleeping with just about anyone else than sleeping with you.
The worst part is you're likely to begin to believe you aren't good enough.
You're likely to question yourself, question the person you are, the choices you've made in life.