Most guys leave this to chance; they rely on luck or hope.
They will likely be in conversation already, or at least thinking about something with a conversation going on inside their head. Think about how you do this in your own life; be aware of your interaction next time you join a group.
When you start talking, you’re breaking that state, and their response will be, “What? I only learned this properly when I started as a trainer and watched students open without first saying, “Hey.” The girls would say, “What?
” And the interaction always seemed to go badly after that.
It got the guys off on the wrong foot from the beginning. ” Or even something nonverbal, like a raised hand, a funny or inquisitive facial expression, or some other action that makes the girl or group stop what they’re doing and look at you.
The “Hey” is followed by a pause, to ensure that you have the attention of the group before you deliver your actual opener. ” (Pause as group looks at you.) “Do you guys…” Actually, you’ve got a little leeway here: the pre-opener can be anything that gets the attention of the group: “Hey! Elements of a Successful Opener The opener is the first real thing you say during an interaction, once you’ve taken the stage with your pre-opener.
The best openers make your audience laugh, make you look cool, and are much more interesting than whatever the girls were discussing before you came along. An indirect opener is one that doesn’t immediately convey your interest in her and doesn’t put much pressure into the interaction.
If you say, “You’re hot and I want you,” that’s very direct and puts a lot of pressure on her; if you say, “When does it get busy here? Indirect Openers Here are some indirect openers and how they might be used. The key is making certain that the first line is deadpan and the second is delivered with a smile. When they realize that they’ve fallen into your line, they’ll laugh and become interested in you.
Different people feel comfortable saying different kinds of things. There’s a guy over there who is so perfect for you!
You can pick a few from below, modify them to fit you better, and later make up your own. A couple of solid, tried-and-tested openers are enough. This opener involves approaching a woman, pointing to a guy you (supposedly) think is “perfect” for her, and trying to take her over to meet him.
Invariably she’ll refuse, and then you can say how she should trust you because you’re a great matchmaker.
That opener leads nicely into conversation on dating and relationships.