of this series on dating younger women, we addressed some of the bigger questions on the subject: do younger women actually like older men; are older men who date younger women 'dirty'; are younger women dating older men all gold diggers? So, grab your walking canes, gentlemen, and let's talk about the mechanics of meeting, dating, sleeping with, and having relationships with younger women when you're an older man (and a little bit about this if you're a ." The first comment is one I've heard made repeatedly about Sean Connery by teenage girls.Some of the conclusions we came to include these: While the previous article was about answering the higher level questions - what's with the pushback in the West against older men dating younger women? Why would a woman choose an older man when she could have a younger one? Not 1960s James Bond Sean Connery, mind you, but present day in-his-80s Sean Connery. But this isn't the only path to sexy-older-man-dom - in the last article, I related the tale of a 59-year-old Navy Captain who did just fine with young, pretty, vibrant 20-somethings.
I had one remark - while watching a recent Harrison Ford movie, where the senior was at one point in mortal danger - that she wanted to jump into the movie, save Harrison Ford...then leave me there and bring him back out with her instead.I watched a gorgeous 28-year-old ex-girlfriend of mine with a killer body and a great career date her boss, a bald, portly Frenchman in his 50s who'd been divorced three times.I listened as another girlfriend, 26 at the time and with a strong career in finance, told me about the man in his 40s she'd doggedly chased down for a relationship until he'd turned her down, telling her she was too young for him.Clearly, at least SOME younger women like older men.
But what do you have to do and who do you have to be to make that be YOU?When most people think about older men dating younger women, I think they mostly either picture a suave, well-to-do man in a suit jacket with a social climbing young girlfriend, or some creepy, predatory older man with money to throw around dating an obnoxious gold digger.While these templates are no doubt based on paradigms that do occur in the world, I haven't met people who much fit these descriptions myself, and they're pretty poor stereotypes for older man / younger woman pairings in general.In the real world, the kinds of older men women find attractive are every bit as diverse as the kinds of younger men they do.Here are the types of older men I've seen various attractive younger women fall for: I'm certain there are other "templates" out there I haven't seen - had I not known my old Navy Captain, for instance, I wouldn't have thought that "spunky" worked for an older guy (or even that there WERE spunky older guys, for that matter). Instead, you have some options, no matter what your base personality may be. From "Winners, Losers, and Choosers: A Field Investigation of Dating Initiation", published in the Two studies on interpersonal attraction were conducted at a commercial video-dating service.Profiles of members were rated on age, physical attractiveness, status, humor and warmth.