If a relationship is making you miserable and unhappy - like that of my friend Holly who was being put down and punched up by the man she was supporting financially - consider ending it. So if you're not getting fulfilling feelings in a relationship, chances are you're with the wrong person.As a woman, if you take on too much yang, you risk turning into a facsimile of a guy, which may be admirable but not necessarily attractive.Strength is great, but remember that femininity is what draws in the masculine., or no-self.
If you're breathing and have a heartbeat and just read this phrase, billions of things changed in your mind and body Whether or not you fully buy into this concept, it's a handy notion: with no ego to be rejected, insulted or hurt, you're much more likely to have an open heart and take risks in love.
You're also more likely to be kind, compassionate, and fun to be around. Join me in Los Angeles for a reading of The Tao of Dating for Women: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible on Wed 15 July at 7pm at Book Soup.
Waiting for the world to arrange its circumstances perfectly to allow you to start loving, to paraphrase Ramana Maharshi, is like wanting to cover the world in leather so you can walk barefoot.
"I met this guy, and he took me to dinner, and it was really romantic, but he did/didn't try to kiss me, then he called/didn't call back, then he asked/didn't ask me out again, and what does it all mean is he interested what should I do help help help."Anaїs Nin once said, "We do not see the world as it is; we see the world as we are." Thus you have the choice to see the world with a lens of wealth-consciousness or poverty-consciousness.
Do you see scarcity, lack and limitation around you, or wealth, possibility and abundance?
The mindset you choose bears directly upon the success of your love life (and your success in general). "all the good ones are taken" - begets neediness, and neediness is not attractive.
Big-heartedness and self-sufficiency, on the other hand, work much better.
Even the Bible has something to say about that: "For he that hath, to him shall be given: and he that hath not, from him shall be taken away even that which he hath."And you know what? Because even if only one thousandth of one percent of the 6.5 billion people in this world are cool enough to be eligible for your companionship, that's, oh, 65,000 folks.
That's enough dates to tide you over for a whole month. 'Enlightened' means that you make decisions by considering the long-term consequences of your actions. "I know he's a bad boy, but it'll be so much welfare takes priority, just like in the pre-flight announcement where they say put on your own oxygen mask first, then help others in the case of an emergency.
To be able to take care of anyone else, you need to take care of you first.
Simple, totally non-negotiable, and often neglected.'Interest' means that you're signing up for your fulfillment and joy, not your pain.