I’ve noticed after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the response I get on has dropped to almost nothing.
It’s as though moving from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some kind of death-knell for a dating life.
I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself.
In other words, knowingly sends me matches that are probably not realistic for me to pursue.
When I have emailed some of those guys, I never hear back.
I’m guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further.
Even if I am within their desired range, I still don’t get much of a response.
I assume the reason for this is they can get younger women to respond to them, so why would they go for me when they have a chance with the 45 year-old version of me?
If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. It’s frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating.
It’s the built-in folly of online sites: you are only defined by your age, in bold type right next to your user name.
I am a youthful, fit and free-spirited woman and to be honest, I’m not ready for the retired 65-70+ year old guys.
I don’t mean those men any disrespect, I just want to date a guy closer to my age so that I have a longer future with him, and I don’t feel that I should have to apologize for that.
I have taken your and others’ advice about profile writing, and I have great photos, so I feel confident that the problem is not in how I present myself. It always comes out eventually and I’d hate to have to explain myself then.
I’m not ashamed of my age and hiding it seems phony.