It was getting serious with one of my Tinder matches.After a witty opener (he, having studied at Oxford, asked if I was British because I somehow looked it) and exchanging our jobs and educational background, we were discussing our favorite Delaware beach destination.
"I was serious when I said I'm just looking for friends on my profile.
You're so nice, and I don't want to lead you on in any way.
So if that's an issue, we should probably just call it now."We did; he never responded.
And he wasn't the only one who ghosted me after the big reveal.
During the month that I used social dating apps to find new buddies, I sent countless unrequited salutations, offered up priceless New York City travel recommendations, and even gave my number to a guy who wanted to discuss first amendment rights. When I started, I believed that, with millions of people just searching for company online, I'd easily find my new bestie or at least someone down for a platonic hang.
A friend finder app, after all, didn't seem too far away with Tinder for cats and other spin-off matching services debuting. Lyke Me, an app three Michigan State University students have designed to match people based on interests, is launching this fall.) On a personal level, I wanted more friends.I moved to New York less than two years ago and have been trying to expand my circle as I build roots in the city.As a very extroverted person, I believe the more people around, the merrier (and richer) life is.I began my experiment in mid-August, downloading Tinder, Hinge, and Coffee Meets Bagel.I was familiar with the apps beforehand: I used them for a month in summer 2013 when they were new and the It Thing among my friends, the source of all our war stories.But I ended up hating them for dating because of their "all or nothing" protocol.