There are a few different instances that happened during the time I was newly separated that caused me to classify myself as temporarily psychotic, one of those being when I figured out “my ex is dating my friend! Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend.
We had gotten together a few times and I had told her things–personal things about my ex and our relationship, why I was getting divorced, etc.
What they are doing is really uncool and unacceptable.
I felt like a naïve chump who was the subject of their laughter. If you find yourself in this situation, here are some tips on how to handle it and how NOT to go insane: 1. Plus, when the relationship ends, the only thing people will remember is how you reacted. DO NOT make a scene and get into a girl fight with the girl. You don’t’ have to be overly friendly to your ex and your friend. I think, “My ex is dating my friend” is very common. I remember people in my neighborhood would tell me they saw them out and I would seriously cringe, and then go home and cry. Make sure not to react in front of others because it could get back to your ex and your friend. The relationship lasted for about 6 months (I think) and years later, I’ve come to realize how silly and stupid I was for having the reaction I did. Grit your teeth, accept it, act classy and show grace to the outside world. I hated them and everyone else who I thought could possibly know about their relationship. I thought about them giggling and laughing and kissing and being blissfully happy. The fact that this girl did this to you is probably making you feel insecure about girl friendships. They will assure you that they are your best friends and that you are loved. A good friend used to say to me, “You’re on your own road. ” Lastly, if you are on the other end of this, meaning if you are the one who starts dating your friend’s ex, PLEASE handle it this way. They will support you more than you could have possibly imagined. What are the chances they are going to end up happily ever after? Focus on your kids, your career, and your love life, if you choose. I’m so so sorry.” She will still be upset, but at least you’re thinking of your friend’s feelings. If she goes off on you, at least you can say you handled it the best way you could have.
So, let them have their fun and concentrate on making your own life better. I hope you understand that we don’t want to hurt you.
SHE obviously is a bad friend and you and he are getting a divorce, regardless of her, right?
It doesn’t matter what HE is doing or what SHE is doing.
G., I am a 17-year-old girl and I'm going into my senior year of high school. My friend broke up with her boyfriend of 6 months about a month ago. Now that I'm working with this boy-maybe we can call him Jim-I'm starting to like him. He asked me to go to a movie this past weekend but I said no because I was so nervous and confused about what to do. There are no clear social rules about this but we can try to tease things apart and discuss some unwritten social rules and etiquette. After a month has passed I believe that you can consider dating him. If she is a close friend then I would suggest that you talk to her and let her know that you are considering dating her ex-boyfriend.
Maybe other girls wouldn't think it's a dilemma but to me it is. She didn't talk about it much but she seemed upset when it happened. I would like to go on a date with Jim but I don't want to upset my friend and I don't want other girls to get mad at me. I asked my mother and she said that I should write to you. There is, of course, no simple answer to your question about when and whether or not it is socially acceptable to date a friend's ex. If your friend and this young man broke up within the past week or so then I would suggest that it is too soon to start dating her ex-boyfriend. Second, how close a friendship do you have with this young woman?
I'm working at a day camp this summer with guess who? Clearly, she does not own him but you do want to be both a sensitive and kind friend.