Community Q&A It can be harder to tell if a shy and socially awkward person likes you, because they may not know how to approach people. Once you have broken in to their lives and understand their world you can relax and act as you would around anybody else.
There was nothing I wanted more than for you to like me, to think I was funny and cool. I didn't quite understand it, but that was just fine: More stage time for me. I wore bright neon hats at sharp angles and talked loudly between classes, eagerly awaiting validation that wouldn't come.People began to mutter about me: That Lev Novak would not shut up!A girl I briefly dated at that time finally reached her limit and snapped that I didn't have to talk all the time. I went from parody of a loud person to kind of loud.She meant it icily, but I took it as a staggering relief. The amount of rap battles I started dropped sharply.But I still felt antsy, fuelled by a jittery need to be heard. Leah is the most charming person in every room and has the sort of beauty that would make Helen of Troy puke in shame.
My friends will disinvite me to dinners and parties if she isn't coming, and my parents' voices raise two approving octaves when they talk about her. When we first started dating, I was confused and worried, projecting my extrovert tendencies on to her.
At times I hounded her, craving attention and being hurt by its absence.
I paced and panicked over late-returned texts, read into pauses and tried to talk over lulls.
She, in turn, could be quietly anxious and distant, nervous to text first and unsure about my totally awesome plans to crash a stranger's house party.
We liked each other, but we were wary: Could an ESFP (extrovert, sensing, feeling, perception personality) and an INFJ (introvert, intuitive, feeling, judging personality) overcome their differences? I knew we came from different sides of the emotional spectrum.
I'd imagined that if we'd get along, it wouldn't be sincere.