Guys dating a single mother

I’ve been in a terrible relationship before and honestly now, I’d rather be alone than with the wrong guy.I believe I have a lot to offer – I am caring, kind, warm, loyal and intelligent. I am not looking for a father for the boys; they have one.

I am seriously at the point of giving up on the whole dating thing…

Is it too much of an ask that I could actually meet someone who can see me as a woman, and not just as mother or worse, a bit of bedroom fun? I know Everest is high, but SOME people get up the damn thing, don’t they?

Dear Christina, Before I give you the pep talk you need, let me first acknowledge the painful truths that you’ve eloquently outlined above. Having four kids under the age of 9 is a huge handicap.

I was married for ten years, have four beautiful boys under 9 and have a very fulfilling and successful career.

My life is happy, but I really would love to share it with someone…

but dating when you have FOUR kids is like the Mt Everest of the dating world!

It seems almost impossible for men to see past that.

Well, let me clarify: I have no shortage of “dates”. I have an outgoing personality and seem to be asked out a lot…

I guess I must be in reasonable shape because NOBODY can guess I’ve even had four kids, or that I’m even 34 (I get asked out by guys in their early 20s- I feel like I should read them a story and tuck them into bed… we usually go on a few dates, everything is going wonderful… I’m not talking about church bells, but just to an actual relationship. I am sick of being treated like a piece of ass, and treated like I must be desperate because I have kids.

I’m tired of guys treating me like I should be grateful if they even stick around for five minutes. Do I need to be a nun in order to find someone who can actually see a relationship with me?

Even if I really take my time getting to know someone before we become intimate… Don’t hear from him for days, I assume it’s over…then a text with, “hey are you home tonight? Is it unreasonable that I am hoping someone could take me seriously or see my worth?