Here are the reasons you wave off the idea of dating young: (aimless, noncommittal, out just for sex). But it didn’t seem to fit my reasons for dating younger, nor is it an accurate or flattering explanation of why younger men are worth dating.
But that’s not a power position, and it does you no favors. Beware of wielding stereotypes; they’re cheap shortcuts masquerading as wisdom, and if you use them, prepare to be judged by them. You would only applaud someone if she succeeded in doing something impossible or crazy, or if she got away with something she shouldn’t have. The cougar image is cartoonish at best, derived either from a culture fearful of a sexually empowered woman, or from the woman herself, who claims cougardom as a way to boost her self esteem via sex with a man many years her junior.
You use it as a reason to blow them off, pare back your options, and fuel embittered stories about how It’s So Hard to Meet Good Men. One of my most popular posts to date is 7 Reasons Why You Should Want to Date an Older Woman. ” followed by a high five, which is kind of odd when you think about it. As I approached my mid 30s, I wondered if this meant I was now a bona fide cougar. The term conjures an image of a hungry, embattled woman with heavily coiffed hair, mummified in makeup, squeezed into a bedazzled top and looking to “score” a young man.
When I was 36, I had a brief, wonderful affair with a lovely 24-year-old entrepreneur I met on an airplane. My current boyfriend is nine years younger than me; the boyfriend before that, 10 years younger.You don’t need to make like Stifler’s mom and prey on young 18-year-old boys. What you need to do is embrace the incredible sexual power you possess—and stop making excuses for why you can’t. If there’s one complaint I hear from younger men—and the reason they’re interested in older women, is that they’re a little tired of the same old scene and games.They’re very into the idea of spending time with a woman who brings a little more to the table—a whole world of experience and interests outside of his own. He’s smarter than you think and would welcome a grown-up conversation, not to mention a mature relationship.To say men JUST want sex, especially young men, isn’t a fair assessment.
They’ve been having sex for years, and it’s not like they can’t get it if they want it.They may be less inclined to marry right away or at all, perhaps, but that’s not the same as not wanting a real relationship. Stop it with the, “Oh but he probably wants some 21-year-old chick with perfect breasts.” There will always be scores of young hot girls roaming the planet.You’re wrong to think he couldn’t be turned on by you.Guys aren’t all looking for a girl off a billboard.Men like curves—and the women who bear them with an air of self-possession and desire.Guys like pleasing women and being enjoyed by a woman who appreciates them. I mean sheer energy—a bright, capable man who’s in the earlier phase of his career and life can be a thrill to be around.