Dating waiting and recognizing your soulmate

Like those that choose the “No Dating” method, people in this category can be driven and deeply spiritual. They can keep one foot planted in their own personal goals and ambitions, while keeping up a pleasant romantic relationship and not wanting too much more.

For example, kissing is OK, but what about kissing that goes on so long that it starts becoming a make-out session?

The name of the game for people in this group is avoiding situations that will tempt them (e.g., being alone with their boyfriend/girlfriend in their room).

Example: Many devoutly Christian girls (particularly younger girls) in churches and youth groups across America.

God has somebody perfect in mind for you, and you will recognize that person when you meet them.

Until God brings you that person, you’re not going to date at all.

You’re just going to live for yourself and for God until you meet the person you recognize as your soulmate.

Afterall, why date at all if you know they’re not the one for you? Dating before meeting your soulmate will only tempt, distract, and dilute you.

You can be friends with members of the opposite sex, but nothing more than that until you’re ready to marry somebody. They are putting all of their chips on God, even moreso than others who are waiting till marriage but still allowing themselves to date. It’s OK to date and be romantically interested in members of the opposite sex.

People who choose this path are often extremely driven and deeply in touch with their faith. Example: The Christian rock band Barlow Girl is famous for embracing the “no dating” approach. And when you like somebody, it’s nice to be able to express that feeling with physical affection.

They don’t have a choice but to be driven and faithful, because their whole young life is just them and God. This approach allows you to date, have steady boyfriends/girlfriends, and express your affection for them in sweet but safe (and Christian) ways.

Anything beyond holding hands/kissing is going to be too tempting and violate your pact to be abstinent.