Dating several people at a time

Practicing Honest Communication Determining What You Want Maintaining Boundaries and Commitments Community Q&A Not everyone is ready to settle down with one partner.

Some people choose to have multiple relationships at once for their whole lives.

If you're thinking of dating multiple women at once, it can be done.

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Ever hear the old adage, "date three to find the one"? The simple premise—date three men at once to increase your chances of finding the man you'll marry—was something my grandmother swore by (funny, considering I doubt she dated anyone besides my grandfather.

Ever.)But there may be wisdom in these wise, old words.

Grandma's concern was about weighting your options instead of driving yourself nuts and obsessing over just one man.

Not investing all your time, energy, and emotions into any single man, no matter how much he's convinced you he's Mr. You simply don't have time to fret about how much time he's fretting about you if you're simultaneously dating Mr. Just-Okay, too."If you are looking for a serious relationship, then you should absolutely be dating more than one man at once...

you need quantity to find quality," says "dateologist" and flirting expert Tracey Steinberg.

Even if you're looking to keep it casual, "then by all means, also try out the variety and the spice of life." Steinberg does not suggest sleeping with more than one man at once because of added drama and STDs, but she advises all of her clients to go out on dates with multiple people—until they find someone that becomes particularly sparkly and special to them.

Emily, 28, who was my grandmother's worst nightmare—a woman who became fixated on each new flavor of the month without keeping perspective.

So she decided to try a little man-juggling."I would date a guy and if I liked him, start picturing our wedding within the first three dates," she admits. Every invite I got would become, 'Oh, I can invite him to this.' Every dress I bought would be, 'Oh, I can wear this in front of him.' And this would go on and on for three month cycles or so."She consciously tried to break this habit by dating more than one person at a time.

"My friend suggested I date more than one person at a time for my own good, and I met Adam and I started seeing the pattern happening again, but I forced myself to break it.

I started seeing another guy, and even a few other dates here and there with some losers, but the whole time, it really just helped distract me," she says.

"I was forced not to put my life on hold for him." Perfect, right?