I wouldn’t have any idea what to say to those people.
I wonder..is it that younger guys aren't as comfortable approaching my roommate and I than the older guys?Are the older men not as worried about looking “cool?” Does the possibility of being rejected not bother them as much?When my roommate and I go to a bar, we largely attract the attention of older men rather than males closer to our own age.(By “older,” what I mean is “noticeably older than myself.” Like 15 years or more.) I’m not saying these older men act like they want to “hook up” with us – most of the time they’re just looking for a conversation. I’ve never had an older man ask for my number.) There been a few older men who were more overtly obvious about their intentions – I’ve had several blatantly walk up to me and say, “I think you’re beautiful” – but in those instances they’ve always said their piece and continued on their way.
(Continuing on their way is a good move, because otherwise my response would be, “Thank you.
Now move along.” It’s not that I’m trying to be rude.
I just don’t think “You’re beautiful” is a good opening line, no matter the person’s age – even if they’re thinking it; even if they really believe it to be true.) It’s not like we don’t catch younger guys looking at us – but they look from where they’re sitting, or standing.
And I don’t have a problem talking to older men if they’re being nice, but I don’t see them as someone I’d want to go out with.
A good friend of mine, a woman in her mid-40s, has given me her opinion multiple times on the types of men she thinks I should be dating. “You should be attending parties at embassies and meeting diplomats.
Or you could be an executive’s wife.” My friend has good intentions, but all I say in response to her suggestions is, “I have no desire to go to a party at an embassy.