Older men, it seems to me, are like gold dust on the dating scene right now.
And remember, it's kind of sexy when a man feels empowered enough to discuss his feelings.
There are enough hurdles to making a relationship work, however old you are, so why let age add more stress?
If you don’t make it an issue, chances are it won’t be.
If you really like her, just go with the flow and be yourself, regardless of whether “yourself” is a silly, dorky, immature 57-year old or a wise and mature 24.
Do be understanding I can get kind of defensive when dating older guys, worried that some might see me as another notch on the bedpost, or fresh meat to pass the time until someone more serious comes along.
She may be younger, but her feelings are just as genuine as yours. Do establish boundaries In some rather obvious ways you’re at different stages of life, so if you're just enjoying a fling make sure she isn't shopping for wedding dresses.
Similarly, if you're getting attached and she's planning on moving to Japan for six months, you should probably have a super-fun and not-at-all-awkward conversation about “where you see this going”.
Do dress well Someone once told me a useful rule when it comes shopping for your age.
Twenties = shock; thirties = chic; forties and beyond = cheque. Leave the trend-led streetwear to youngsters who need to compensate for a lack of personality or confidence. Now is the time for creating a capsule wardrobe, a slick canvas of smart pieces which make the most of the fact that you can now actually carry-off “suave” without looking like you're wearing your dad's wedding suit to a funeral.
It's a common mistake for men, when faced with a saggy arse and uneven skin tone, to either give up completely or attempt to distract attention with a level of sartorial experimentation that smacks of desperation. Step away from Jack Wills and into Cos or Oliver Sweeney for simple, high-quality natural pieces that won’t swamp your distinguished features. Don't wear a watch that looks like a bedazzled dump-truck tyre Interesting philosophical question: Do dumbass guys buy obscenely large watches, or do obscenley large watches make a guy look like a dumbass?
We get it, you're financially comfortable, but unless you are a member of the Kardashian family, you do not need that much bling. Don't flash the cash too freely Salaries generally get bigger with age, so there’s a reasonable chance that you earn more than she does.