Why do we find that people who we thought were “the one” vanish from our lives within the span of three months?And why does it almost always happen our freshman year in college?To find out why these types of breakup occur so often, I conducted a survey on campus during a week and a half in early December.
Students were asked on the form to indicate their gender, year in college, whether or not they began college dating their high school girlfriend or boyfriend and whether or not they were still dating.
If students were not still dating, they were to indicate the reason and time period in which they broke up, as well as how they coped afterward.
Students still with their significant other were to list struggles they have faced and how they’ve overcome those struggles as a couple.
By Alexa Hyman I was in tears, 190 miles away from home. “You’re gonna look back one day and you’re gonna go, ‘What in the hell was I thinking? I was a first-semester college student, and my high school relationship of three years was over.
I couldn’t think straight or feel anything besides a sickening knot in my stomach and the crushing feeling of hopelessness.
For heaven’s sake, I acted as if the sky was folding down around me and the ground was crumbling beneath my feet. Here I am, one year later, asking myself, “What in the hell was I thinking?” Given my own personal experience of the classic college breakup, I can relate to the oh-so-common high school sweetheart relationships gone sour in college.All I can offer to the freshman on campus is: Welcome to college—where friendship, stress, hormones, partying and adulthood are taken to a different level.Where the academics and “experience” come first and our—now long-distance—high school sweeties, dragged onto a whole new playing field, almost come second.Why is it that, in college, we watch so many of our friends dump, get dumped, cheat and get cheated on?How come we witness so many “most-likely-to-get-married” relationships dissolve, and the people become two separate strangers?