When Michael Lockwood was a single divorced dad, he'd often write down dating advice that he planned to give to his daughters when they grew up.
As a matter of fact, that’s usually the joker who can’t rub two nickels together.
What’s wrong with the guy in jeans and a T-shirt, driving a Camry, checking his Timex to see exactly when his check is going to hit the bank? Never allow yourself to be impressed by a man’s depreciating assets (cars, clothes, expensive rental apartment). If you’re going to be impressed with material things, at least be smart enough to start with his net worth.
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I had a woman tell me how flattered she was when her boyfriend booked her a posh hotel room, filled it from corner to corner with freshly cut roses, and had an expensive dress lying across the bed just as a surprise to show her how much he cared about her.
Granted, I’d have to give the brother an “A” for style and originality, but when I said to her, “Wow, he must be paid! He’s living with his mother right now, but he just really likes me.” All I could think was, 'This fool must have fallen and bumped her head.
I understand it may have been a flattering gesture, but don’t reward a man with attention and praise for foolishness.' Now, if he has no problem affording lavish gifts, that’s another story.
But if the brother is broke, you have to question his motivations (and his sanity). This brings me to my next point: Don’t ignore the red flags.
He must use whatever tactics are at his disposal to get the go-ahead for intimacy from a woman. Some women are notorious for turning a blind eye to the warning signs, even if they’re staring them right in the face.
Instead of those flags just sitting there while you ignore them, let me wave a few of them for you. If your man wears more than one ring per hand, more than one bracelet per wrist, and more than one necklace per neck — RED FLAG. If he is always the one who’s overdressed for the occasion — RED FLAG. If your man is constantly spending money on you without regard to price (i.e., clothes, trips, jewelry) and he can’t afford it — RED FLAG. If your man constantly asks to “hold” some money or expect you to pay while on dates — RED FLAG. If he approaches you with a flattering, yet rehearsed line — RED FLAG. If he says he has a job but can’t articulate exactly what it is he does for a living— RED FLAG. If he talks about himself more than he inquires about you — RED FLAG.
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If your man is living in his mother’s house for more than a couple of months — I give a small grace period — RED FLAG. If he drives an expensive car, but rents an apartment — RED FLAG. Men are aggressive by nature, and once we devour our prey, we’re off on the next hunt.