Back then, 40 seemed very late in life to get married. The Bible on getting married is John Molloy’s “Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others“. And if men are offering to have flings with you, you are probably reasonably attractive, which is very important.
I have been so busy finding a career and getting hooked up too an ex-boyfriend that I have missed the best years of my youth. In the 80s, there was a widely quoted article that said that a 40-year-old woman had a better chance of being killed by a terrorist than getting married (urban legend, of course; the writer of the article was clearly speaking tongue-in-cheek). Time is running out–use time wisely in your search for the marrying man It sounds like you’re on the right track, now that you’ve dumped your loser of a boyfriend.
Plenty of men are available but most are married or have girlfriends–they just want a fling. The Harvard MBA says: I’m actually working on a dating book, but because it hasn’t been released yet, I’ll try to provide the summary version and some key recommendations. With the declining marriage rate and the tendency for people to postpone starting a family, you’re in good company. Keep in shape, watch your weight, and take care of your appearance 6.
Do read my outline of the book–it’ll only take a few minutes, and it may end up being the most important thing you ever read. If you find yourself in a dead-end relationship, move on. (By the way, don’t pay attention to the negative Amazon reviews of Molloy’s book; a cursory glance shows that they are all written by overweight women who are outraged that men would be such pigs as to prefer the svelte, sexy, and attractive.But for the lazy, it says that there are six basic guidelines for women who want to marry: 1. Next they’ll be complaining that men should stop wasting time watching sports on TV.) Your big issue seems to be that you’re unable to find the “decent” guys.Here is where market segmentation and targeting comes into play.According to Molloy’s research, the peak marrying years for college-educated men are 28-33 (30-36 for men who go to graduate school), and that the chances that a man will get married plummet after the age of 38.Therefore, you need to target men between 28 and 38–right in your current age range, another plus for your chances.
Within that age range, there are certain types of men who are more likely to marry: In other words, find good-hearted men who may not look like Brad Pitt, but might clean up well after getting the “Queer Eye” treatment.The best bet is a guy who has a lot of married friends.Now for the ,000 question–where can you find these men? Men who attend religious services are more likely to marry.Here’s the (very) relevant advice from Molloy: 1) The best places to meet eligible men are clubs and groups based on common interests. A few final thoughts for you: Only 7 out of 2,000 men interviewed said that their fiancée was dressed in a very sexy outfit when they met–dress attractively, but not provocatively. Give men a second chance–20% of brides to be said that they didn’t like their husband when they first met him.Most men propose after going out with a woman for 18 months. Women with a large number of female friends are more likely to marry than women with a large number of male friends; men don’t go out of their way to introduce their female friends to other men.If at the end of 22 months, a man has not proposed, the chances that he will start to diminish. Men are attracted by the physical, but marry character; newly engaged men said that what attracted them to their fiancées was how classy, positive, energetic, enthusiastic, and upbeat their future wives were.